Keys To A Successful Relationship

After the incredible response to my last relationship post ‘The Truth About Long Term Relationships’ I thought why don’t I take another whack at this whole love guru thing. So here are a few more of my keys to a successful relationship.

Work, Work, Work, Work

No this isn’t the start to a Rhianna song, I’m not going to shake my booty for you… I already did that on my instastories earlier this morning. This is about relationships, and guess what relationships take work! Let’s not fool ourselves, all relationships take work. Friendships, colleagues, teams, family… we work on them right? So why wouldn’t your romantic relationship need it too? I think we all get scared when we realize this truth and think that’s not how a marriage or dating life should be. We think it’s like the movies and if I have a fight then it’s not meant to be. It is! We have to remember we are two completely different people bringing our lives together, that means there are going to be arguments and compromises and that is freaking fine!


I bet you haven’t ever been told to argue. But arguments are healthy! Now I know no one wants to upset their partner (if you do, then I don’t think this post is going to help you) and that’s not the goal to fighting. When we argue constructively, within a safe space and without hatred there are so many positive outcomes. Like communication, understanding, feeling better, and great make up sex!

Bringing Sexy Back

Ok Mum, this is when you click right off and go get yourself a cup of tea. It’s about to get nasty. Good nasty. SEX BABY! Now as I fight my 12 year old urge to giggle my whole way through writing this, I want to stress how important sex is. Not only does it feel great, which is a key, it also helps us relieve stress, and connect with our partner. So do what I say and go get nasty!

Touch Me

Alright so I know I just said sex is key and it really is, but sex also goes beyond the bedroom. I often talk about this with my friends, that sex starts in the morning. It’s the kisses first thing when you still have morning breath, it’s the mid day phone calls just to say hey, it’s the butt grazes as you cook dinner, it’s the handholding on the couch while you Netflix. We do all of this at the start of our relationships, before we sleep with each other. Remember when that sexual tension is on an all time high. So why stop just because you’ve done it?

Talk To Me Baby

There really is only one holy grail to a successful relationship, and that’s communication. I mean what’s the point of being with someone if you don’t talk??!! It’s the foundation to every successful relationship. I mean if you don’t communicate how do you know how each other feels, what you like and don’t? Communication invites a friendship into your partnership, it ignites trust and love. So go on a date and talk!

 xoxo Fil

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  1. May 1, 2019 / 3:21 am

    Alright, We have a number of references to this kind of thing. AKA Soul Mates.
    One needs knowledge about relationships and then the wisdom of having gone through enough with a partner, to learn healthy processes.
    Do your homework, do your homework, do your homework.

    By the time people come to see me, generally the relationship is pretty well over. I first have to find out what is draining the energy out of it. Sex, drugs, or rock’n roll. Sometimes it’s infidelity, sometimes money, sometimes kids, sometimes in-laws. To much or to little, in some dimension is at issue. Just learning a new technique rarely fixes the issues.

    • Filipa Jackson
      May 1, 2019 / 3:08 pm

      Well these are things that have helped keep my 13 year long relationship strong healthy and fresh. I just wanted to share what has worked for us. Under no circumstances will this work for everyone.

  2. May 1, 2019 / 4:51 pm

    Yes relationships are hard. It is not like the movies and it is not magical where you feel special and other worldly and dancing on clouds. It is day and day out work and respect. The best is marry your best friend the person you get along with the best. Sex is secondary. If a relationship is based solely on sex it will not last.

    Allie of

  3. Paul
    May 2, 2019 / 2:40 am

    I agree with your points and it does feel soo good, stress relief never felt so good

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