Oh boy is todays topic a scandalous one. To change or not to change, my last name has been quite a heated conversation. However I have decided that I won’t be getting rid of the my last name Jackson, but hyphenating. I will become Filipa Jackson-Walji.
Some of you may ask, why? Why are you not just taking Sameer’s name? Well to be honest this is a question Sameer asks too. My answer may not be such a solid one but hey let me try explain. I’m no feminist but I don’t really think it’s all that fair that us ladies should have to get rid of our name and switch for the mans. Zoe Saldana and her husband Marco got it right… She became Zoe Saldana Perego and he became Marco Perego Saldana. However I don’t think this would go down well in my household. Lastly, this point might be the most stupid one, but it’s the most important one to me. I’m the only girl out of a family of boys, no one else will be changing their name… this makes me sad. Although they will still be my family, of course, I will be the only one without the Jackson name.
I understand Sameer’s complaints, am I ashamed of his name? No not at all, it’s just hard when you have always gone by this name. Being a Jackson is my identity, an identity that I am proud of. However many a people ask about our children what will happen with them. This is still quite the fragile subject, one that we are still communicating on, one that we will communicate about until we are both happy.
How do you feel about hyphenating? Did you/do you want to change your name?
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