After the incredible response to my last relationship post ‘The Truth About Long Term Relationships’ I thought why don’t I take another whack at this whole love guru thing. So here are a few more of my keys to a successful relationship.
Work, Work, Work, Work
No this isn’t the start to a Rhianna song, I’m not going to shake my booty for you… I already did that on my instastories earlier this morning. This is about relationships, and guess what relationships take work! Let’s not fool ourselves, all relationships take work. Friendships, colleagues, teams, family… we work on them right? So why wouldn’t your romantic relationship need it too? I think we all get scared when we realize this truth and think that’s not how a marriage or dating life should be. We think it’s like the movies and if I have a fight then it’s not meant to be. It is! We have to remember we are two completely different people bringing our lives together, that means there are going to be arguments and compromises and that is freaking fine!
I bet you haven’t ever been told to argue. But arguments are healthy! Now I know no one wants to upset their partner (if you do, then I don’t think this post is going to help you) and that’s not the goal to fighting. When we argue constructively, within a safe space and without hatred there are so many positive outcomes. Like communication, understanding, feeling better, and great make up sex!
Bringing Sexy Back
Ok Mum, this is when you click right off and go get yourself a cup of tea. It’s about to get nasty. Good nasty. SEX BABY! Now as I fight my 12 year old urge to giggle my whole way through writing this, I want to stress how important sex is. Not only does it feel great, which is a key, it also helps us relieve stress, and connect with our partner. So do what I say and go get nasty!
Alright so I know I just said sex is key and it really is, but sex also goes beyond the bedroom. I often talk about this with my friends, that sex starts in the morning. It’s the kisses first thing when you still have morning breath, it’s the mid day phone calls just to say hey, it’s the butt grazes as you cook dinner, it’s the handholding on the couch while you Netflix. We do all of this at the start of our relationships, before we sleep with each other. Remember when that sexual tension is on an all time high. So why stop just because you’ve done it?
Talk To Me Baby
There really is only one holy grail to a successful relationship, and that’s communication. I mean what’s the point of being with someone if you don’t talk??!! It’s the foundation to every successful relationship. I mean if you don’t communicate how do you know how each other feels, what you like and don’t? Communication invites a friendship into your partnership, it ignites trust and love. So go on a date and talk!
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